I have found that some of my fellow 20-somethings seem to have forgotten how to solve problems. Either we make mountains out of molehills or we do actually turn molehills into mountains by leaving the molehills unattended. Neither of which is productive. So I have decided to put together a little guide to solve problems for those who fit this description.
1. Determine if there is actually a problem. So many times we over-think things and then create problems that are not actually there. Imaginary problems are the worst. Ask yourself, is this really an issue that I need to put time and energy into? Is it causing excess stress in your life? Will it truly affect your future? Is it making your heart race at an abnormal pace? If the answer to one or more of these questions is yes, then it might be a problem. Proceed to step two.
2. Ask yourself, “Can I solve this problem by myself?” Is this a personal issue? Maybe a weakness that you need to work on? Will other people think that you are overreacting? Will other people care to help you? Sometimes, there’s really no need to look anywhere but in the mirror. However, remember sometimes we must ask for help, which is completely acceptable. Proceed to step three.
3. Who do I go to for help? Who is the right person to help me? Who will best meet my needs? Sometimes it is not necessarily the person who always tells you what you want to hear, sometimes you need to hear the hard truth. “The truth will set you free but first it’s going to piss you off.” Maybe that’s not the case for you. Regardless, try not to involve an excess number of people in your process.
4. Determine the steps/time you need to actually solve the problem. Big change doesn’t happen overnight, take that into account when thinking about your problem. Small changes might be easy fixes. Maybe you need to just have a conversation with someone. Maybe that person is yourself. Maybe you have to make some sacrifices. Remember: It might not be easy! But most likely, it will be worth it, even if it just seems like a small problem.
5. Learn from your mistakes. And try not to repeat them.