Now that I am a senior in college, I can’t help but look back at my senior year of high school, at high school in general and compare it to “adulthood.” I feel the need to share what I have learned with girls that would have been helpful to me when I was younger. (And to be honest, this was all most likely told to me at some point but I didn’t listen and now I wish I had.)
1. Don’t be in such a rush. Don’t rush to grow up, you will only want to go back. Don’t rush to lose your virginity. Not everyone is doing it. It may seem like it and it may seem like the right person and the right timing, but when you get to college you’ll see that not everyone had sex in high school. And a lot of people who did, wish that they hadn’t. Don’t be in such a rush to get places. Cars are deadly weapons and it only takes a blink of an eye for your whole life to change.
2. Don’t worry about being popular. If all you focus on is being the prettiest girl or the most popular girl or the “meanest” girl, then you will be doing a great disservice to yourself. Focus on being the smartest girl, the nicest girl, the best girl that you can be.
3. Don’t worry about whether what you love is “cool.” People who are “nerds” in high school generally end up as “boss” in the real world. Find your passion and stick to it. Explore things, you’re young, this is your time.
4. Make quality friends. After graduation, you lose touch with 90% of your “best friends.” For one reason or another, your friendships just start to fade away. So make quality friendships. It isn’t about the number of friends you have, but about the kinds of friends you have.
5. Participate in class. Those college recommendation letters make a difference. Learn to make connections early.
6. Be careful. Obviously, have fun. Have a blast. But don’t let one night of bad decisions or stupid mistakes affect the rest of your life. Be careful with your reputation as well. People’s opinions can change for the worst in the blink of an eye. It’s 10X harder to get their opinion to change in a positive way.
7. Don’t worry about falling in “love.” It sucks when it feels like you’re the only one without a significant other. It sucks even more when you give your heart to someone who doesn’t even want it. What you think is love in high school, probably isn’t. But you won’t realize that until later in life when someone who is amazing comes in and really shows you what love is. And then you’ll wish that you didn’t waste all that time on someone who wasn’t worthy of your time.
8. Figure out who you want to be. You will be one step ahead of everyone else in college.
9. Avoid rumors, gossip and drama at all costs. It will save you tears, headaches and friendships.
10. Appreciate your parents, teachers and true friends. You will miss these people in college. Make sure you don’t burn bridges that may help you get somewhere later in life. Don’t take them for granted. You need people like this in your life.
11. Lastly, compliment people. Highlight their strengths not their weakness. Be kind. For everyone is fighting a battle.